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to have or to be  

Posted by Zimmerman Stein in , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

to have or not to have are the same thing: pretend letting go.
having can be things or people or ideas or feelings.
having things like: freedom, self-expression, peace of mind, choice, happiness, strength, health, love, clarity, simplicity, understanding, honesty, self-respect, generosity, compassion.
wanting that stuff is attachment, not being. i see how i'm really being when that stuff is threatened or not respected or taken advantage of or pushed to the limit or abused.

being is unlimited and unconditional

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come-as-you-are  

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acceptance is not about fairness.

acceptance is %100 responsibility.
acceptance does not judge.
acceptance means absolutely no opinions about another:
what comes up for me - this thing you do - the way you are - you know how you are - it's not bad, it's just something you do - i know you better than you know yourself - are you being authentic - i sense some dishonesty - i believe this - why would you do that - you should do this - you shouldn't be that way - anyone would feel like i do - i need to stand up for myself - you're taking advantage of me - you're not being fair - you're controlling - i feel manipulated - i need to be free - you don't let me be myself - i need to express myself - you make me feel this way - you need to change - you're not hearing me - you dont listen - i cant communicate with you - you need to take responsibility

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hoarding & pretend letting go  

Posted by Zimmerman Stein in , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

hoarding feelings and pretend letting go are the same thing. just like you can get rid of stuff all the time without actually letting go of stuff. "out of sight out of mind" is the same as "sweeping it under the rug."


at first it seems like a guage might be to ask myself, "how attached am i to the stuff i won't get rid of?" except that if i'm getting rid of stuff without actually letting go, then my answer is a lie.

actually letting go does not happen without acknowledging my attachment to the stuff and does not happen without love. sometimes the stuff might want to stay. acceptance is unconditional. i am not the judge. accepting my relationship to feelings is healing and growth. everything else is about controlling my life and my world. and there's no love there. and no honesty.

all things in my life are love.

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unconditional love is a healthy mind  

Posted by Zimmerman Stein in , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

unconditional love doesn't judge.

unconditional love is acceptance.
unconditional love doesn't help another person grow.
unconditional love is supportive and encouraging.
unconditional love doesn't try to improve or fix a relationship.
unconditional love sees the relationship as unique and ok as is.

honesty formed out of judgments is still pollution.
it looks like caring, but it's really a form of control.
i might want to help a friend, but only use supportive thoughts.

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