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pitiful/judgmental or loving  

Posted by Zimmerman Stein in , , , , , , , , ,

pity is a poor substitute for love.
responsibility is grounded.
but there's more to love.
compassion is the other half.
victim or hurt is quick.
judgement is quick.
judgments come up attached to feelings.
judgment is blame.
compassion is slow.
responsibility is metered.

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feel the feelings  

Posted by Zimmerman Stein in , , , , , , , , , ,


"the easiest way to deal with feelings infected with guilt has been to deny the feelings. for many of us this has been crucial to maintaining self-esteem and keeping our optimism high enough to go on with life. the problem with this is that denied feelings don't go away, they submerge and stay unconscious. this creates an opening for the split off parts of us (that experienced the feelings and are now unconscious) to repeat destructive or unwanted patterns of behavior.

denial is only a coping mechanism. real healing can come only when the feelings are felt and the guilt is confronted and removed. although the suggested practice that follows is very easy to do, it can facilitate very deep healing..."

1. "I release the judgment that I must hate myself because I ____"
2. "I release the judgment that I am bad because I ____"
3. "I release the judgment that ____ is bad or wrong."
4. "I release the judgment that I am in fact ____"

we're all innocent.


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unconditional love is a healthy mind  

Posted by Zimmerman Stein in , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

taking things personally is the opposite of unconditional love.


i want to be loved unconditionally.


acceptance is non-attachment.


letting go means letting go of all attachment - not just letting go of hurt and anger and negatives, but also positives like hope and desire and passion and love itself.


unconditional love is exactly how i would like to be treated.


taking responsibility means anytime that i judge, every time! that i judge, i take responsibility for it.


don't ask others to clean up their act or be better friends. and if i do, then take responsibility. watch for this when feeling hurt or angry or judgmental.


i can ask for time to express my feelings or i can even ask to express my judgments. but expecting it as a right, demanding it, is blame (guilt turned outward against the people that i love).


all expectation is a form of attachment.


all taking things personally, all getting hurt is a form of attachment.


all right and wrong (judgment) is a form of attachment.


there is no love in attachment.


non-violence is complete surrender and total acceptance.


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guilt & blame  

Posted by Zimmerman Stein in , , ,

guilt and blame are a continuum. when it is in us, it is guilt. when it is in someone else, it is blame. guilt we feel impossible to own ourselves becomes blame when it is projected out onto another. releasing judgments against others (blame) is just as liberating as releasing them against ourselves. just say, "i release the judgment that (person's name) is bad because they ..." and "i release the judgment that ... is bad or wrong." either way, guilt or blame, it's ours to release.

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